SATC - My Answers

Taken from a place earlier in blogherstory...

...In celebration of the movie, which comes out this weekend, I've decided to finally ANSWER these questions.

I thought about them after a delightful first date last night when the gentleman inquired about the ending of my last "relationship"/encounter and I paused.
He then filled that silence with these words: "Isn't anything worth having, worth fighting for?"
I got scared at the moment, thinking that my composure and my eyes were giving me away, for quiet as it's kept, I still having some feelings for that negro....

In an effort to NOT write a manuscript --

1 - How do you know when it's right?
-- I haven't gotten this "right" in over 10 years, so I can't say I have a clue. What I remember is that it is effortless. Or seems that way. Things flow, easily, continually, even with the bumps in the road.

2 - Samantha says, "Women are for friendships, men are for fucking." Men, consider the reverse as well. Can you be friends with an ex?
-- I agree with Samantha, to an extent. I don't fuck my friends. Eww. Yuck. But I have great friendships with men. If I ever consider fucking them, we won't stay friends. And to quell all the naysayers, I never fucked Constantine. He remains my best friend. Next....

3 - To be in a couple, do you have to put your single self on a shelf?
-- You have to change your thinking. You can enjoy aspects of your single life, but realize that it's not just about you anymore.

4 - When it comes to relationships, how do you know when enough is enough?
-- When your sanity is questioned and you begin to lose sleep. Change your damn mind and move on.

5 - Are there certain things in a relationship that one should never say?
-- Untruths.

6 - Charlotte asked, Do we really want these things (dates, relationships, soulmates, babies) or are we just programmed?
-- It's very individual. I do want dates -- GOOD DATES. I so desire a HEALTHY, LONG LASTING, relationship. Soulmates, ah.....come back to me on that one, but my gawd I can't wait to bring a baby, or 2 or 3 into the world. That is a miracle I am really looking forward to!

7 - If it's true that orgasms are better when one is in love, just how much of sex is the connection?
--'Tiz true...but orgasms are delightful achieved in or out of love. But in love...wow.

8 - Miranda says,"Who we are in bed are who we are in life. I never met a man who was bad in bed that was good at life." How do you know if you're good in bed?
-- I don't proclaim to be. I'm not one to flaunt my prowess, but if the man keeps coming back then I must be doing something right! Besides it's always such a learning experience...and I enjoy learning LOL

9 - It is said, if you love someone let them go, if they come back it was meant to be. Do you need distance to get close?
-- You shouldn't have to resort to this. Distance may make the heart grow fonder, but I don't think it makes things right.

10 - Just how much does a father-figure or mother-figure figure in relationship building?
-- It matters much. Lawd knows I'm no Daddy's Girl, or a Momma's Girl for that matter, but their relationship and what they've shown and taught me has influenced how I go about building relationships.

11 - If relationships are inevitably a series of compromises, when does the art of compromise become compromising?
-- If only one person is compromising.

12 - Carrie says, "A one minus a 'plus one' feels like it adds up to zero." In other words, do you let the one thing you don't have effect how you feel about everything?
-- Not to the extent of some of my peers. I'm extremely blessed and live a fortunate existence. I don't have a man, nor prospects of a long-term relationship, but that doesn't define me. But I'd be lying if I said I didn't think about it more as I get older.

...::More to Come::...

[Song of the Day: "Words" by Anthony David]

What I need...

...to be blogging about:

1. Transit...and the new commute.
2. That damn Grey's Anatomy!
3. Summer plans...
4. Dementia and at what point must Jesus CLEAR THE ROAD?!
5. Just how much HAVE I been saying "Jesus, take the wheel?!"
6. Weddings, baby showers, graduations, birthday parties...and I still don't have a date!
7. Inauguration, biatches!
8. Facebook is the devil.
9. Just HOW is all of this being paid for?
10. $58 to fill my gas tank, and why I am eating PB&J sandwiches again.
11. I haven't heard a "new" song in ages. What is on the radio these days?
12. Recovery is real. Tithing DOESN'T hurt. Now, if I could just afford to GO to church....
13. And only He knows if I'm fertile, but damn if Aunt Flo doesn't KEEP making an appearance! 22 days this go 'round....can't keep her luggage in stock.
14. Why luggage may kill all prospects of a vacation!
15. Insomnia.......

Will I come back to flesh this out?
Sometimes, just typing it out is all the release I need.

..:: More to Come :..